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How To Connect With The Afterlife

afterlife feather

I think it would be fair to say that the vast majority of us are all too aware of how excruciating losing someone special can be - it really has to be the hardest price we pay for love.

But while our grief may reside with us indefinitely after their passing, so too does their Spirit.

Their birthdays, memorials and such dates can be the perfect opportunity for us to build our connection to the Spirit Realm; a gift that is buried within every one of us - if we choose to use it that is.

With that in mind, please read below the ideas that can help you commemorate your loved one in Spirit; along with my tried and tested methods for expanding your consciousness to connect with the Higher Realms.  

It’s time to bridge the gap between you and your loved one, and find relief in the soul’s continual existence…

Candle Gazing

lit candle

This wonderful technique can be carried out to help you raise your vibration, which in turn helps Spirit in meeting you at that essential halfway point. And it certainly helps that spirits are drawn to candles like moths to a flame! Therefore by simply lighting a candle dedicated to your loved one, you are giving them the perfect space to connect more easily with you.

When candle gazing, make sure your mind and body are fully relaxed and then softly look at the flame of the candle - particularly at the very tip of the wick. Ensure you are not staring too intently; relax your eyes as much as possible whilst you do this.

Spirit can manipulate the atmosphere around and within the flame (sometimes in reaction to your thoughts and words) and can make contact very effectively this way. So begin to notice how the flame moves… Does it stop suddenly when a certain thought pops into your head? Does the flame flicker wildly, as though someone is trying to get your attention?

Trust that Spirit are there and will do whatever it takes to make their presence known.

Make their signature dish

making a meal

Cooking and/or baking is probably a memory we all have with our family and friends - and quite possibly some of the dearest memories too! I often feel my Nanna’s spirit around me in the kitchen, working alongside me; especially when I am trying to recreate one of her famous roast dinners!

Relive your memories by getting in the kitchen and cooking up a treat! By doing this, you are creating the perfect vibe for connecting and feeling the energy of your loved ones; as well as enjoying the taste of their favourite foods too. Win-win!


sitting meditation

Meditation really is the answer to ev-er-y-thin-g, isn't it?! There’s just such a wide range of things you can meditate on that can help you reach your desired state. And one of my absolute favourite reasons to meditate is to connect with Spirit.

Trust me when I say that this very practice is what will really get the ball rolling for you when exploring your spiritual and mediumship abilities. For there is nothing quite like it to get you into the perfect state of mind that is required to bridge the gap between our world and that of Spirit. Plus, its benefits will naturally overflow into other areas of your life too!

Setting your intention before meditation increases the likelihood of a successful encounter with Spirit too. So consider saying a little prayer - asking your loved ones to draw close and for them to give you signs that they are around, and then simply relax into the process to see what occurs...

Listen to their favourite songs

woman listening to music

There are ENDLESS ways that Spirit will try and communicate with us; their special song coming on the radio, lyrics that seem to be talking directly to our hearts, an instant mood-booster of a tune just when we need it...

So take a comfy seat, play the songs that instantly remind you of your loved one and feel the vibrations of the music resonate with your very soul. Let the memories that naturally flood your senses seep into your every pour through the music.

Nothing beats this technique for me personally; getting a connection with a loved one seems to work every single time this way! And if not, it at least allows me to reminisce on some of my happiest memories once again.

Have a drink

glass with a drink in

Taste is an amazing sense that can instantaneously connect us to the present moment - which also happens to be the most auspicious time for a stronger connection with Spirit. For, there is no such thing as time in the afterlife - they vibrate in the here and now.

So pour yourself a drink - but more specifically, make it one of their favourite drinks! Whether that be a whisky, a cup of tea or even a glass of lemonade; whatever makes you immediately remember your loved one.

And then  s a v o u r it.

Imagine putting yourself in their shoes, and tasting that drink with a new curiosity; try to feel what they would have felt when enjoying their favourite beverage!  

Talk about them

woman on a couch having a coffee

Can you feel a slight buzz in the air when you chat about your loved one? Despite how much grief your heart may be carrying, do you manage to smile - or even laugh? Spirit LOVE to hear you talking about the days gone by, they naturally draw closer when you begin to reminisce and will rejoice in your every word.

Every time you remember them and reflect on the special role they had in your life, you are keeping their spirit alive and present. And that everlasting love that you feel when you talk of these treasured memories? That is the very essence of which spirit is made of and vibrates upon.

Why not call a friend or family member who was also fortunate enough to share parts of their lives with this special person? Talk about all the fun, and happy times, and see if there are any other stories they have that you don’t yet know of!

Talk TO them

sunlight in cupped hands

This can be out loud or in your head; either way, they are hearing you LOUD AND CLEAR! Some people like to do this at their loved one's plot at the cemetery, some like to talk to the stars and imagine them shining down upon them... No way is wrong, just as long as you feel you can open up to them.

Notice any emotions that begin to stir, or any random images or memories that pop up in your mind whilst you're doing this - this can be Spirits' way of communicating back with you.

Write them a letter…

person writing in a book

This works especially well if you put pen to paper on this one. Physically writing snaps the creative side of the brain into action - the part which is responsible for working with Spirit.

So in the words of Elsa...‘Let. It. GO !

Get out of that comfort zone, and write like you’ve just found an address you can post to on the other side. Say all the things you wish you could have said before they left this human existence.

An important pointer here is to not worry about how your wording sounds, or whether you have spelt something correctly or not; this is the time to write as freely as a child would! Because by allowing yourself to lose your inhibitions in this way, you are opening up your heart and your throat chakra - which in turn allows for the perfect connection with your loved one.

Get out the old photos

pictures across a desk

We never stop learning in this life - and undoubtedly in all of the next ones too! We are constantly discovering parts of ourselves that we didn’t even know existed; new likes, new hobbies, new interests… We can also find this to be true about the people we have shared our lives with - past or present. We are constantly happening upon new realisations that help us to know and understand those we love better.

Dust off the old photographs and enjoy looking back at the memories of some of your favourite people. Study the pictures and see if you can spot anything you hadn’t noticed in previous years that might give you some more insight into your loved one.

By doing this, you will be connecting your spirits once again and continuing to build on that ever-growing bond you share.

Create a space of remembrance

lit candle with orange flowers

This can be as simple as displaying their picture in your home, or even dedicating a section of your garden to lay flowers or decorations. It is essentially somewhere you can pause for a moment or two, and can be especially helpful on those particular dates that tend to stir up your grief.

Nature strongly connects us with Spirit in such a profound way too, so you could plant their favourite flower and use it as a visual reminder of them. No matter how big or how small you go, I can promise you that this outward expression of love will not go unnoticed by your loved one.

I hope this advice has given you some guidance, or even just a little comfort in knowing the spirit of your loved one truly never leaves you. If you need any further insight into any of the ideas above, please do get in touch with us and we will be happy to help.

feather on water

*We highly advise that any time you are trying to communicate with Spirit that you keep yourself safe. An opening prayer and closing prayer are both vital to carry out to protect you before, during and after your attempts to connect with the Spirit Realm.


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